Do You Struggle With Disability Dating?

There are many people that struggle when it comes to disability dating and then there are others who always seem to have an easy time of it. The reality is that there is no sure way of getting regular dates—no magic potion or program.

Love Yourself

The first rule of thumb when it comes to disabled dating is being comfortable with the person you are. If other people aren’t able to see past your disability, then you do not need them in your life.

You may say that this sounds ridiculous, but it is not. Meeting someone who accepts your disability the same way that you do and does not brush it under the carpet, means they may be the right person for you. They have to embrace your disability because it is a part of who you are. You must be appreciated and that applies to every part of you.

You must never be ashamed of who you are; you should never feel as though you must apologize for your disability. There is nothing wrong with you. You do not need fixing and anyone who feels differently is not worth having around.

Everyone should love you for who you are, and that includes your disability. Accepting your disability is the first step in getting others to do the same. Stop and think about it for a moment – most men will not refuse to go on a date just because a girl has brown hair instead of blond. So why should they refuse to go on a date with you just because you have a disability and manoeuvre around the world in a different way?

We Are All The Same

There are some people who have a real issue dating disabled people, but what they haven’t seemed to realise is that:

• Everyone is the same
• We all get in trouble
• We all have negative and positive things about us
• Everyone needs someone

If you do not have a sense of humour, then you are already fighting a losing battle. Humour is a great way to make the other people feel at ease in an uncomfortable situation. A person with a disability is like a marketing call; no one has time for it and they are certainly not interested.

You must stay positive. Everyone has good and bad days, and venting how you feel is a good thing, but dating someone who is always complaining is a no-no. How can you expect to share your life with someone who does nothing but moan about how terrible their life is?

Having said all that, there are some people in this world that are:

• Happy-go-lucky
• Self-confident
• Funny
• Self-loving

But they still have a hard time finding a person that will notice them. Now if this sounds like you, then there are a few things that you can try in order to make things a little easier.

• Get an Internet connection
• Join social networking sites
• Join regular and disabled dating websites
• YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE!

That love interest is not just going to walk through your door one day and whisk you off your feet. Make yourself known and interact with as many people as you possibly can.